Morocco: Remember This Child?

NORA FITZGERALD

11/12/12

Marrakech / Morocco News Board  -  He came into life under difficult circumstances.  He is Saeeda’s son (name changed for privacy).  Such a curious, funny, quick child.  Since his birth, his mother, who is unmarried, drew the veil of secrecy around herself and her child in order to protect them both from scrutiny.  With time however, she introduced him to her family as “the son of a woman who can’t take care of him”.

  The family just adores him.  With time, many of them came to understand that he is in fact her son,   By that time, they all were in love with him already, they were able to come to terms with it in a palatable way.  The story is a still there “to save face” in front of others… neighbors, strangers.

It’s been almost two years since his birth, since that day when she was penniless and homeless and still weak from childbirth, and we were able to open our home to her for a few weeks.  Things have gotten so much better.  I have had the great pleasure of working closely with Saeeda over the last year in the context of our baking endeavor.  Often times she had her son on her back, and when he was older, scampering about with the pots and pans.  I can honestly say she is one of the best mother’s I’ve seen.  She talks softly and reassuringly to her son, a soothing narrative of what they are doing together.  She takes great care in preparing his special food, soups and baby bottles.  She keeps him clean and well-dressed although she has very little money.  She laughs at the 100 funny things he does, her own small rewards.  Her eyes just shine when she looks at him.  She doesn’t get impatient, she always gives him time.  Being around them both is very soothing and joyful.  Everything in her life has always come to her at great difficulty, even the circumstances around the birth of her son.  But even the burden of being a single mother in Morocco is nothing compared to the love she has for him and the joy he has brought her.   I can see that he is clearly her dearest treasure.

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+5 #1 Male Hypocrisy — Redouane 2012-11-13 07:28

You really have touched on a subject that bugs me.

As a man, I feel sheer frustration when it is always Moroccan girls who take it on the neck and they are still supposed to keep quiet about their lot.

It takes two to have babies. And Moroccan men have been given carte blanche for too long by society to do whatever they like with no consequences.

Time to own up and name the culprits. Name and shame these neanderthal monsters.

I am sick and tired of them messing around the towns and cities, and maintaining an impeccable reputation when they go to ask the hand of a virgin girl they want to marry.

These single mothers should not suffer the burden of raising these kids alone, or leaving them at an orphanage, or undergoing a dodgy abortion and leaving the absent fathers roam free and spread their evil seeds left, right and centre.

And God knows how many girls this subspecies of males could impreganate in a lifetime.

Time to name and shame the bas*****.

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+3 #2 RE: Morocco: Remember This Child? — mbt 2012-11-14 05:51

Why or how did the woman get pregnant in the first place? And the father should be named and shames in the public to stop one parent families

I wonder how many children are "fatherless"?

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0 #3 RE: Morocco: Remember This Child? — Nora Fitzgerald 2012-11-28 04:08

For one thing, Moroccan law doesn't prosecute men in this situation. She can't take him to court. We explored this with a lawyer. The father himself wouldn't recognize his son or help her in any way. She's tried a few times to take the boy to him so he could at least see his son and perhaps change his mind, but he wouldn't see the boy. Don't know what else to do at this point.

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